Asshole. Your mom's reaction is very telling, she asked you to tutor your brother, and she expected you to say yes. 15M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. If you needed your mom to cover your insurance bill, you could not afford to spend $50 at the pumpkin patch. No one wants to hear about their parents love/sex lives, whether they are together or divorced. So for most of my (21M) teenage to early-adult life, my mom (57) and dad (56) have been very strict on how I spend my money, and rightfully so because I understand that it's good to teach your kids how to spend money the right way, and to make financially smart decisions, but lately it's been getting worse, potentially because I'm getting older and now I have a credit card, etc. When I went to check my account it said I had $5 that I could spend. 1) regardless of his sexuality, he cheated on your mother and destroyed your family, 2) he taught you to be homophobic, 3) you were 15 when you “hurt him first. A catharsis for the frustrated moral NTA. I did my brother's homework. My mom had access to my account since she made it for me and whatnot. AITA for asking my husband to stop spending so much money on his mum? Not the A-hole. Provisional NTA because if you contribute to household expenses you are paying for your own keep. (2) I guess because my parents pay for pretty much everything so I might be acting entitled because I don't need the money I'm being payed to tutor my sister. That's what happened to me, the hated child. Love for you doesn’t fill my gas tank. Take the job with no guilt. Well it’s upset my dad that I don’t want to visit him even though I explained that I just want to spend more time with my mom. If you live with her, move out as soon as possible. It was irresponsible and greedy to try and get more money when my relatives were kind enough to gift me a lot as it is. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in AITA for telling my mom to spend money on a tutor for her favorite daughter because I won't be helping my sister?The protagonist, a 16-year-old girl, faces f AITA for telling my mom to spend money on a tutor for her favorite daughter because I won't be helping my sister? upvotes · comments r/AmItheAsshole AITA for telling husband's parents they can't visit us. You just told them enough is enough. -Askreddit #askreddit #reddit #aita #redditstorie #redditposts You should have stuck to that plan. Especially after only a year of dating. She was wonderful and remarked on my kindness. She should just be more direct and tell you she wants to to stop mooching and move out. At age 8 she was adopted into a loving, wealthy family of two college professors, along with an adopted brother. AITA for telling my husband to stop spending so much money on his dead girlfriend’s younger sister? I (28F) have been with my husband (34M) for almost a decade. 50/50. I was 10 at that time. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in ESH. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Spent gifted money on gambling and food 2. My kids both are a part of a very rigorous education program, that while in theory doesn’t take them a long time to complete, in actuality I spend so much of our time enriching doing the intangibles: library visits, researching random things they’re interested in, various homeschool group meet ups, regular play dates, extra science AITA for shouting at my mom? Not the A-hole. He said, “You’re not about to cut out my quality time with my family. Your mother sounds exhausting and I'm sorry. I refused. TheMiniManCan • 5 yr. I was living off salads or 50p noodles for weeks until my mother and older sister told me to move back home. NAH. " "I will allow my little boy to see such insanity!" "Mom, I'm not 10 years old. Here's a major financial lesson my dad gave me when I was learning to pay my bills: just because you have money in your account, doesn't mean you have money to spend. Therefore, I am also living temporarily - so I can sublet my house - with my AITA for telling my mom to spend money on a tutor for her favorite daughter because I won't be helping my sister?The protagonist, a 16-year-old girl, faces f I (15F) and my mom (39F) have always been quite close. My mom has always been somewhat particular about how me and my siblings spend our money. I accepted on spot, bcs it would be a supper at the 24th and a breakfast the 25th, and my mom usually did the christmas stuff on the 25th. AITA for telling my mom to spend money on a tutor for her favorite daughter because I won't be helping my sister. My mom was mortified I was wearing 2nd hand clothes. We have three children (6F, 3M, 2F) together, and we are currently expecting our fourth child. My mom is fond of them since Lia's mom have been good to us and gave me money when i graduated from school etc. Earlier today ESH; You shouldn’t have used your mom’s money without her consent and she shouldn’t have told you take things off your christmas list in general. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Reply. My mum used to have a awful habit of smoking, but not drinking, and wasting money shopping for the sake of shopping (spending £100+ on a simple trip to get some milk, not other food stuffs but stuff like dvd's she never watch, appliances like coffee makers and juicers no one used, and more smokes, stuff like that). I got mad and said "we shouldn't have to spend money to be good friends. 4) any parent who would abandon a child because of words is the worst kind of human being and deserves to die with deep regret. Philadelphia 76ers. So present her with an alternative job you would like to take. He was the adult. When you didn't she threw your airpods that you bought with your own money into a vent. Vote and comment on others' posts. And honestly you should be spending less money too because I know you can't afford all of this, and just focus on the people who care about you. . I have no sense of right and wrong really. If you don’t want her to criticize how you’re spending money, pay her rent or go rent a place while you continue to save. AITA for telling my mom to not expect a mothers day gift from me. Recently, my brother (23M) has moved in with us, and my mom has been milking him for money because she spends all of hers on resin. It's a relationship in which I could tell her stuff without getting into trouble, but that also doesn't mean that I tell her everything. Your mom should not have signed you up for anything without talking to you first. And we don’t live in the US so we are both still living at home and dependent on our parents money wise. My dad fought hard to get custody from my mom because he did not want to lose me at all. AITA for never telling my Mother I married into money? Not the A-hole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to… Because the longer it goes on and no one talks about it, the worst it will be. NTA. " And leave she did, and we didn't see her again for the entire 3 If she happens to ask why she hasn’t seen her granddaughter, tell her you can’t afford it. The kid friend stood in the front doorway of my home and held the front door and storm door open at the same time. It's definitely not both their money if they aren't married, so you can stop thinking that. Find out if you were wrong or right in an argument. what will they do then? Try for scholarships in case what your sister said is true. She is old enough to know about finances, kids, they notice more than you think. My boyfriend and I are both 18. Problem solved. I felt like spoiling myself so I went to buy myself some lashes and makeup online but my transaction got declined. Since then they visit us with their 4 little After some time I decided to play some games with friends, just as I began, my mother decided to do laundry and asked for things to be washed, I asked her if it could wait but she said no, I got up and gave her all the clothes, she complained about it being too much and that it won't fit, I asked how is it my fault, then she changed the topic . This has worked for us for the ten years we have been together. Told that to my mom and it worked so hope this helps :) Nta. Like I can't actually tell if my actions are good or bad because all my life I've been ridiculed for both. My (16f) mom and dad are divorced; my mom has remarried and has three stepchildren, while my dad is still single and I live with him. AITA for telling my mom to stop treating my brother like a kid. AITA for telling my mom am never coming back - August 11th 2023. I do, however, dislike being told how to spend my money. 1. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you… My mom said instead of letting my sister invite a friend step sister should get the 4th ticket, but my sister hates my step sister and doesn’t want her to go with us. NTA this girl wants to either steal or ruin your jacket due to jealousy. I (21f) recently had a big fight with my mom. The jacket is a gift, and it was expensive. 17 votes, 26 comments. Even after downsizing apartments, her rent would be $1,200-$1,500 a month. (As we lived together , even though we The cheapest care home is $2,800 a month. No one who has a kid, from a one night stant, at 17, has any business giving you advice. Not the A-hole. I knew that my mom had another boyfriend that made them to get a divorce. She goes behind your back and against your wishes, makes a big deal about where the money comes from and how much it is but also invites her friends, doesn't pay for them, makes a stink about everything then has the nerve to still be outraged and offended when you call her out on her bs. My (f25) mom (f56) works but there’s a lot of expenses at home and my sister (f21) needs some uniforms for her med practices (she’s in med school). I studied in one of the most prestigious university in my country, and is public, so I never needed money from my parents to pay my stuff, even because I work since I was 16. I finally bought a book from Scholastic at the school my my own money for the good teacher's in class library. AITA for not removing sensitive books, and "making fun of my Sil's education". My mom LOVES commenting on my doing my hair and make-up every day, spending money on the things I want instead of less expensive knock-offs or versions, asking me if I absolutely need to spend the money I do on vacations when my husband and I could stay somewhere cheaper and telling me I should like the food I hate and shouldn't hate it just AITA for telling my mom to spend money on a tutor for her favorite daughter because I won't be helping my sister? My mom says me remembering this is me holding a stupid grudge since she doesn't remember the things she's said and I should let it go. ADMIN MOD. He did end up getting 50/50. r/AmItheAsshole. So in March 2018 I got this card with money on it, I told my mom she could spend it on the cats to get them helped and vaccinated. At that point, I won’t need gas money to take you anywhere. I told my mom that I paid for the tickets so I take who I want, and I don’t want to take my sisters bully. I have never asked for anything in return for the past four years and kept telling her that her friendship was enough. Well since my mom got put on hospice I’ve wanted to spend as much time with her as possible. I told her I only had $20 left from my last paycheck and she said she would pay them back on the 19th, when she gets TikTok video from Beyond Beautifull (@beyondbeautifull): “AITA for telling my mom to spend money on a tutor for her favorite daughter because I won’t be helping my sister? Subreddit: r/AmItheAsshole Posted by: u/Fine_Cut6784 #fyp #redditstories #redditreadings #foryoupage #blacktiktok #blacktiktokcommunity #foryou #beyondbeautifull #aita However, considering we have a mortgage and she doesn't seem to care about how she's spending money, after reminding her to mind her spending a bit on several occasions, today she brushed me off with "Leave me alone, I can't track every dollar I spend, also what about <insert the thing I purchased>?!" To the people saying the mom is lazy to get a job, she may not be living in America. AITA for asking my gf to stop spending money on immature crap? My (35M) gf (26F) has just graduated with a masters in AI from a very prestigious university. Keep your money and let her deal with her own problems for a while, she'll be back. AITA for not wanting to help my mother in law move. They need to go buy them tomorrow and my mom asked if I had $40 to lend her. " My Nana got pissed and started yelling "That's so disrespectful, I'm leaving. On top of that, it holds sentimental value. -6. My mom was going with my younger siblings to check out the booths and such, and I was told to finish my almost done hotdog, and while doing that, to stay with my Nana. I'm going into my senior year of high school. You can freely spend your earnings then. My friend’s in a tight situation financially and has a lot of things to deal with mentally bc her family’s not the greatest (mom died, dad left…) I love her a lot and try to help her as much as I can. Excuse my English, its not my first language. So my grandparents didn’t force me to go to my dads they understand that I want to spend time with my mom. When I turned 18, my dad lost his job and needed government support, but feared they’d see my bank balance. Earlier today My mom has been telling me she has no money and then doing something that shows otherwise. My siblings want us to split the total cost 4 ways (3 siblings + mom and dad). She now has her own place after living with 4 roommates for 2 years. You aren't obligated to tutor your younger siblings just because you're family. It stuck. During my final year in University I did not have enough money to afford decent nutrition. Mom refuses to go (she’s still physically and mentally capable). [deleted] • 5 yr. It started about 2/3 years ago when I was just 18, eager to study abroad. Look up a green dot debit card. My brother (17m) has always been my mother’s favourite and no I am not just saying this, but she tells this to everyone around her. That's just not how this works. AITA For calling a five year old a motherfucker? Yesterday my roommate’s son had a friend over for a play date - they are both 5. Your mom is though. Backstory: My (27f) mom (53f) has had a really hard life. My mom decided to change it for the 24th and started to tell me about how I'm egoistic and selfish, specially as we are immigrants and I'm her only family apart my 5yo brother. Backstory: My (17F) mom (45F) cheated on my dad (46M) 7 years ago with my step-dad, Alan (50M). I understand the sentiment and was on full board to do it for Lia too. Whenever he has money, he spends it all in a span of a week or two because he buys a lot of stu Idk about the convincing stuff, I can't convince my mom for anything. She needs a friend to confide in. In college, I did parks & rec day camp in summers in inner city San Jose. And I said, “This is nothing against them – I want us to do our own thing. My boyfriend (28) and I (25) are moving in together after a lot of problems (which we have been dealing with for over 2 to 3 months now) with getting the mortgage we have almost finalized it with the real estate agent but evry week we get more and more papers, which caused (1) Asking my mom to pick only 2 days a week to tutor my sister. I'm (23F) saving up for my first big solo trip, I work 80 hours a week and am frugal with my money. She wants op to do the work for her sister. This was 3 years ago. My dad was devastated to say the least. “Don’t cry when I’m dead. 13M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. the moving problem. She pays bills, buys resin materials, and is left with a finite amount. My dad had saved about 20k for me (my parents divorced when I was three). My dad died when I was 2 and my mom raised me as a single mom with a series of boyfriends and eventually a new husband. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in ADMIN. Seeing these things don't affect me. I didn’t want it to come out the wrong way and he cut me off and said, “Too late. she should just get only some of the things for you from your list, then you probably wouldn’t have spent the money even though you weren’t sure whether or not you were going to get the shoes. He is an amazing father to our kids and I couldn't ask for a better husband. You see, my mom has always had this tendency to make promises but then later on forget about them and act like she didn't promise in the first place. His parents helped us by letting us live with them when we were struggling, and gifting us money in the past (we did not ask, they insisted). You will be gone in a couple of years. Okay, so this problem may be a bit silly, but it's really on my mind. AITA for telling my mom I know she spent my inheritance. Then I told him I feel like we do everything with his parents. I told them that while I do love them, I don't like them and don't enjoy spending family time with them like eating dinner together. My mom got a job when I (f14) was 6. my mom(58F) keeps tabs on my bank account as I had made it when I was 17 Here's what you do You walk into the bank with valid ID You withdraw ALL the money from the joint account and take it with you You drive to another bank You open up an account IN YOUR NAME ONLY You put the money in there NTA AITA for telling my mom to spend money on a tutor for her favorite daughter because I won't be helping my sister?#redditstories #reddit Call of Duty: Warzone. A person can only hold in so much rage until it suddenly explodes, and in this case, as it was only shouting, it’s completely valid and you are nta. NTA, i mean after all it was just a harmless joke that lasted less than 30 seconds, although i admit that accidentally putting diesel in my car is one of my worst nightmares, it should be fine if you have a good relationship with your father. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! They're too mature for you!" "Because I enjoy them, mom. This money lasts… Let me tell you, my dad found out really quickly that my mom spend WAY less money on herself than he did. So she wants to pay 2 rents. " Leah immediately hung up and hasn't talked to me sense. I'm not a child anymore. It's your money. So since we were kids he has been coddled his whole life. If that doesn’t work then I would respectfully tell your mom that it’s affecting your relationship and that if she keeps it up there won’t be one in the future. She'd leave me with whoever would watch me for days on end and i'd end up mostly raising myself. But then few days ago mom talked to them and found out that Lia was struggling with a subject and now my mom wants me to take classes for her . I also told this to my classmate, but he says my mom is crazy and I should have money for myself. I might be an asshole for telling my mom it's none of her business how we spend our money when we live at her home rent-free Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. She had a hard time adjusting, made a lot of bad decisions, and basically ran away in her late teens. I (34F) have a difficult relationship with my Mother, she had me when she was 17 and was addicted to various substances when I was growing up. ”. She is in a much better place financially than she used to be but she wants us to learn the value of a dollar which I am totally happy about learning. That said, your 17 and a lot of parents want kids to start earning a bit of spending money or learning responsibility, which employment can help with. hope the situation gets somehow sorted soon! i wish u the best! i understand relationships with parents can be really AITA for asking my mom money back? Not the A-hole. So I got upset and told her I don't really have that kind of money right now and that these were things that were supposed to be in my mortgage, which would be payed over the course of 30 years and she goes into defense telling me that it's about $500 cheaper this way and that it would be better for both of us. Join the community of moral philosophers and share your dilemmas. I asked him politely at least 4 times to close one of the doors so that my cats (strictly indoors In our house, only my father, Lana and I are working, but only dad and I pay everything at home, Lana just help with the grocery. This is where I may be the AH. The children are well cared for, their parents evidently have enough money to ensure their continued well-being and safety, and there's nothing to keep you from remaining in touch with them via Skype or an occasional visit. AITA because I keep messaging my mom about money. I'm gonna be a legal adult in 5 months. So, my boyfriend is kind of an impulsive buyer. We had always been a close family despite our big differences. Edit: Gotta say that 90% was a rough estimate. She checks his computer, his phone, barges All three of you are letting your Sister freeload off you and she's not learning to take responsibility for her actions. The car got quiet and I know it hurt my mom for me to tell her that. You can basically get a “debit card” with cash, from places like 7-11 CVS dollar general etc. Help keep the sub engaging! I really think it’s not fair that my sister goes to this fancy school while I’m stuck at public school so I told them they should be giving me at least some of the money that they’re spending on my sister and her school to make up for the fact that I had to move for her school and that now I’m stuck at public school because her school The problem is she has access to see if my account is below 100, and I'm not in a good mental space to try to be on my own as at this point my mom is helping me with a lot, to the point that I don't know If I can live on my own, and also I don't have a choice but to tell her as she helps with me getting the money, and has me transfer the money (we were given $300 to spend this year) Once I made my list I put at the top corner of the list “I don’t care about the limit😠” and when I asked my mom about why me and my brothers had a limit on cash she told me that she apparently did that every year! The thing is, she has not mentioned anything about it to me for almost 18 years! PedMan22. He was a smoker and liked to go to poker night on Fridays with his friends, which quickly ate up all of his monthly fun money. She has always lived obsessed with money and nowadays lives off of her half of my dad's inheritance, which she invested in real-estate. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. He loves collecting shoes, and just loves spending money, whereas I am bit more frugal than him. -1. I see my mom on some weekends, but I don’t spend the night at her house because I like to spend the weekend with my friends. ago. Gotta make clear that both mom and step-dad have full time jobs. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to… My dad wanted to give my mom a hand with the money till she find a job that's why he didn't kick her out at the time, but now 7 years later my mom still doesn't have a job or something that really helps with the household payments, so basically my dad pays all the expenses and food for me, my brother AND my mom. AITA for telling my mom she robbed me of my dad's inheritance. My husband is 27M, I'm 25F, we have a 4 year old son and 1 year old daughter. Don’t bring up money, just mention, and stick to, your policy of not lending clothes. She doesn't want op to tutor the sister. You spend your extra money however you want and she can be in charge of her own stuff. Please talk to your daughter, explain why you had to spend the money. Like a week ago i asked if she could buy me and my brother our glasses and i assumed she would say yes because she doesn’t spend ANY money on us but then immediately said she didn’t have money this week i found out that she bought a newly constructed 2)Mediocre man----again, talk to her calmly that while you understand she's excited about him, you don't want to talk about her new relationship because it makes you uncomfortable. Get a job once you can and open a debit account. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! NTA, trusting your measurements of you arguing back not being as bad as the things she’s said to you, your mum had it coming. I put all of the $3k into my bank account which made my balance around $3,200. But this isn't a boo hoo feel bad for me thing I'm just happy you were able to empathize with me on the matter. We are an early 30s married couple with a baby, we earn roughly the same as each other (about 30% over the UK average wage each) and we split all bills/costs/etc. Im not sure about anything, that's why im asking here if i'm being entitled or if my mom is wrong. So I said "Hell no, I'm full. You've been doing them an enormous favor and they've been very cavalier about treating you properly. She works as a teachers aid and she said it would be a good thing because she's off after school and during breaks and it was ok at first, then she would stay after school to tutor her students and would ask my ADMIN MOD. Obviously, she was scooped up by a big tech company right after, and now makes a salary well well over 6 figures. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you… Well, with what my daughter told me about their conversation, She was telling Bryan about her full ride scholarship, and how excited she was to finally go to school for marine biology (he's never supported her dream of being a marine biologist and has always told her to go to college for a "REAL" job) when he sat her down and told her to not go 14M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. ub is uk es zv ay jq mb cx qg